Direct answer
Needing others' approval to trust yourself is the sign that external confirmation has become a condition for recognizing your own capacity. Ser Poder is precisely not depending on that endorsement: recognizing who you are and trusting your own experience, even without someone else's stamp.
What's happening underneath
When approval becomes a condition, the context stops merely influencing you and starts organizing your inner experience. This is the hijacking of identity by context: you feel you can only act once someone validates it.
This doesn't make you fragile. We learned to have power by seeking recognition, and recognition feels good. The point is that it becomes costly when you stop acting without it.
From the external stamp to the center
- Notice when asking for an opinion is genuine curiosity and when it's postponing your own choice.
- Observe that validation relieves for a moment, but returns the same dependence in the next decision.
- Practice deciding small things without consulting. Trust in your own experience is built through use, not through waiting.
Stop turning someone's approval into the condition required to recognize your own capacity.
It is this shift, from outside to the center of the pendulum, that lets you hold a choice without outsourcing it.